Yesterday, I sent out a tweet that life is wonderful. When I saw that tweet this morning, I could not help but wonder if I am just painting a picture.
To a certain degree, I’m of course painting a picture. A picture of all the moments I treasure. I hardly ever tweet or post anything negative. That, however, doesn’t mean nothing negative happens to me.
My life is most certainly not stress-free. But over the years, I’ve become better and better at listening to what it is that I need. That whole thing about balancing things out. It is easier said than done, but it is possible.
Resilience, in my opinion, comes from finding that balance. There will always be things that happen to us that we wouldn’t have chosen to happen that way. We have to deal with those. One way or another. But a day has 24 hours. And usually, that leaves us with a decent proportion of time which is at our disposal. We can use it to dwell on things but we can just as well use it productively. And with productively I don’t mean we always need to be doing things. Doing nothing can be very productive as well.
Perhaps doing nothing is not the right way of saying it. After all, in the end, it is impossible to do nothing. We can sleep, listen to music, stare out of the window, meditate, but we can’t truly do nothing. We are always doing something.
But that’s just semantics. What I want to get to, is that next to the things that just happen to happen to us, we can consciously make time for things that we want to happen to us. Create our very own “dynamic equilibrium”.
The more dynamic, the better. As on certain days, we’ll have more time to let our heart determine the content of the day than on other days.
Makes me think of a saying that says “do you run the day or does the day run you”. Well, the truth is always somewhere in the middle. Which is exactly where we want to be, right in the middle, at our very own center.
But this does not just happen accidently. There are times where we have to be more deliberate about it. Where we thoughtfully have to influence the flow of our life.
That’s an art worth investing time in. We learn by trial and error. If you have not found your dynamic equilibrium quite yet, don’t give up. It exists. It’s a great place to be.
Have a lovely weekend.